Love
Sweet or not sweet relationship?
01:21Another wordy and lengthy post. (J always tell me not to blog with no picture because he almost fall asleep while reading it. But I don't care about him! Hoho) Anyway, to share a good news or perhaps a wonderful news and most probably everyone who care already know: I am in love again. With who? With this super ungentleman, super irritating, super cute, super cool, super awesome boy named Jonathan Tan!
Hooray!
It is never easy to trust and even going into another relationship after so many failed relationships. People are at the back judging you. "Woah. So fast change another boyf! Why she changes her boyf like how I change my underwear?" At least I never, because most of my relationship lasted for a year.
Looking back in time, I changed a lot. Be it the way I look at love or relationship, or how I treat love and even how I changed myself for love.
I used to think letting the whole world know how sweet you and your boyf are is sweeeeetttt. Posting status on facebook: "Happy 5th month-versary Dear. Thank you for being so wonderful boyf, and treat me so nice. I love you a lot a lot a lot. We will last till forever......." or tweet to each other: "Ling, I love you." "Awwww. I love you too. <3" I guess I outgrown this. I found it very childish. People do not have to know and do not want to know how loving you and your couple are. In fact, it is a laughingstock when you and your boyf (girlf) broke up. "I thought you and who who very lovable? In the end also break up. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA" Funny right? (Sorry, maybe I looked things in a very negative way.) And and and, since your boyf (girlf) treats you so good, love you so much and you posted it out to let everyone knows. You know there are always some people out there jealous of your relationship, maybe they will try to sabotage your relationship. (Especially when you have many haters, or your boyf (girlf) is good looking) so better keep the good thing to yourself, don't share and don't tell people.
I bet many of us read many sweet sweet post about month-versary shoutout online right? It is really very sweet initially. "Happy 4th month-versary! I love you. You are so awesome. How I hope we can get marry now. Although we always quarrel, but it will make our relationship stronger because we can know more about each other. Dear, I love you." Another 3 months, same shit repeated again. "Happy 7th month-versary! I love you. You are so awesome. How I hope we can get marry now. Although we always quarrel, but it will make our relationship stronger because we can know more about each other. Dear, I love you." Eventually you will have nothing to write. Boring right? Another point: you two are just together for 5 months or 7 months, why sound like you have been together for 7 years? I used to do this, but I stop because it is way too stupid.
"Aiya. You don't know lah. You are just jealous of what we have now. Don't be a bimbo and make a fuss here. You have no right to comment anything, or if you don't like it don't add me as friend lah!" Actually I know everything, I went through everything and I love to stay around to see people making fool of themselves.
To many xmm, in a relationship is always cooler than being single. I really regret for going into relationship when I was 13. Not that my ex is not good, but we are just too young. What we really know about love at that young age? It isn't about saying I love you, kiss, hug or sex. So now when on the street I see young couples, I will feel sad for them. Do they really know what is love when they are together? Maybe I still don't understand the true meaning of love, but at least I know a bit more than you (xmm or xdd).
To me, love is about caring. You know what flaws your loved one has, yet you still love him. Not accepting those flaws, but helping him to change. I once read this on Facebook on the difference of wives and girlfriends. For instance, you as a husband or boyf did something wrong. Reaction of a wife: She will be very angry, scolding you non-stop but she will help you. She will make sure you know where you did wrong and you won't repeat it anymore. Reaction of a girlf: She is not even angry. She forgives you and console you. See the difference. Someone who love you, will be angry and not accepting your wrongdoings and stop you from doing it again. Just like your parents. However, men normally love the girlf more than wife. Just like you like your friends more than your parents.
Back to topic. Disclaimer: I am not judging any young couples out there. It's still wonderful and sweet to have someone who dote on you, and I do envy those couples are together since very young (Because I don't have one. T.T). Kids, don't get into relationship too young, you will miss out a lot of fun!
I don't know if I should continue. I stare at the post, even I find myself boring. Haiyo. Just a bit more. Keeping it short and sweet.
How I view love. If you ask my beloved girlf, they will tell you I used to value it a lot till I forget I have friends when I am in relationship. (Such a clingy girlf. HAHA) Now, I spend quality time with friends, family and with Jon (I guess I did.). I love going out with my friends now. Really love it. I still love all my friends and family even I have Jon. I always try to ask my friends out to catch up with one another. Now: Friends over hoes. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
One last thing: I hate overthinking. I swear overthinking makes things 100000000000x worse than what the actual thing is. I kept things to myself and after all accumulative negative thoughts I burst out. You feel very down. "Is my boyf cheating on me?" I don't do it now. When I feel sad, I just tell Jon why. I tell him why I am angry. I tell him why I jealous. Just tell him how you feel. After explanation you will feel good again, and in love again. Yayyyyyy! If he don't explain or no excuse, maybe he don't really love you anymore or those with too good reasons beware of them too.
Yayyyyy. You finished reading this super ultra wordy post. Sound like a 70 y/o granny teaching her grandchildren. Goodnight. Old woman needs to sleep more. Welcome comments. http://ask.fm/SEESINYUEN
It is never easy to trust and even going into another relationship after so many failed relationships. People are at the back judging you. "Woah. So fast change another boyf! Why she changes her boyf like how I change my underwear?" At least I never, because most of my relationship lasted for a year.
Looking back in time, I changed a lot. Be it the way I look at love or relationship, or how I treat love and even how I changed myself for love.
I used to think letting the whole world know how sweet you and your boyf are is sweeeeetttt. Posting status on facebook: "Happy 5th month-versary Dear. Thank you for being so wonderful boyf, and treat me so nice. I love you a lot a lot a lot. We will last till forever......." or tweet to each other: "Ling, I love you." "Awwww. I love you too. <3" I guess I outgrown this. I found it very childish. People do not have to know and do not want to know how loving you and your couple are. In fact, it is a laughingstock when you and your boyf (girlf) broke up. "I thought you and who who very lovable? In the end also break up. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA" Funny right? (Sorry, maybe I looked things in a very negative way.) And and and, since your boyf (girlf) treats you so good, love you so much and you posted it out to let everyone knows. You know there are always some people out there jealous of your relationship, maybe they will try to sabotage your relationship. (Especially when you have many haters, or your boyf (girlf) is good looking) so better keep the good thing to yourself, don't share and don't tell people.
I bet many of us read many sweet sweet post about month-versary shoutout online right? It is really very sweet initially. "Happy 4th month-versary! I love you. You are so awesome. How I hope we can get marry now. Although we always quarrel, but it will make our relationship stronger because we can know more about each other. Dear, I love you." Another 3 months, same shit repeated again. "Happy 7th month-versary! I love you. You are so awesome. How I hope we can get marry now. Although we always quarrel, but it will make our relationship stronger because we can know more about each other. Dear, I love you." Eventually you will have nothing to write. Boring right? Another point: you two are just together for 5 months or 7 months, why sound like you have been together for 7 years? I used to do this, but I stop because it is way too stupid.
"Aiya. You don't know lah. You are just jealous of what we have now. Don't be a bimbo and make a fuss here. You have no right to comment anything, or if you don't like it don't add me as friend lah!" Actually I know everything, I went through everything and I love to stay around to see people making fool of themselves.
To many xmm, in a relationship is always cooler than being single. I really regret for going into relationship when I was 13. Not that my ex is not good, but we are just too young. What we really know about love at that young age? It isn't about saying I love you, kiss, hug or sex. So now when on the street I see young couples, I will feel sad for them. Do they really know what is love when they are together? Maybe I still don't understand the true meaning of love, but at least I know a bit more than you (xmm or xdd).
To me, love is about caring. You know what flaws your loved one has, yet you still love him. Not accepting those flaws, but helping him to change. I once read this on Facebook on the difference of wives and girlfriends. For instance, you as a husband or boyf did something wrong. Reaction of a wife: She will be very angry, scolding you non-stop but she will help you. She will make sure you know where you did wrong and you won't repeat it anymore. Reaction of a girlf: She is not even angry. She forgives you and console you. See the difference. Someone who love you, will be angry and not accepting your wrongdoings and stop you from doing it again. Just like your parents. However, men normally love the girlf more than wife. Just like you like your friends more than your parents.
Back to topic. Disclaimer: I am not judging any young couples out there. It's still wonderful and sweet to have someone who dote on you, and I do envy those couples are together since very young (Because I don't have one. T.T). Kids, don't get into relationship too young, you will miss out a lot of fun!
I don't know if I should continue. I stare at the post, even I find myself boring. Haiyo. Just a bit more. Keeping it short and sweet.
How I view love. If you ask my beloved girlf, they will tell you I used to value it a lot till I forget I have friends when I am in relationship. (Such a clingy girlf. HAHA) Now, I spend quality time with friends, family and with Jon (I guess I did.). I love going out with my friends now. Really love it. I still love all my friends and family even I have Jon. I always try to ask my friends out to catch up with one another. Now: Friends over hoes. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
One last thing: I hate overthinking. I swear overthinking makes things 100000000000x worse than what the actual thing is. I kept things to myself and after all accumulative negative thoughts I burst out. You feel very down. "Is my boyf cheating on me?" I don't do it now. When I feel sad, I just tell Jon why. I tell him why I am angry. I tell him why I jealous. Just tell him how you feel. After explanation you will feel good again, and in love again. Yayyyyyy! If he don't explain or no excuse, maybe he don't really love you anymore or those with too good reasons beware of them too.
Yayyyyy. You finished reading this super ultra wordy post. Sound like a 70 y/o granny teaching her grandchildren. Goodnight. Old woman needs to sleep more. Welcome comments. http://ask.fm/SEESINYUEN
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